Revelations: From Words of Wisdom

This is a post I wrote for both the lounge I'm in and my blog. Just kind of me rambling thoughts and ideas together.

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This is more of an observational report, of what’s been on my mind, thinking of words of wisdom passed on to me by others. I’ve just been noticing that whenever I talk or think about game there are a few general concepts or tips of advice others have given which, I frequently refer to or have noticed them making a big effect in general. I just felt like sharing some of them. Most of these are really general, and familiar to all of you, for some reason, they didn’t effect me until I heard it from these people.

NOTE: Please remember these aren’t exact quotes just words fitted together the best I can recollect them from my jumbled memory.

“ The most successful people just mess up and make more mistakes faster than the person next to them."

- YellowCab

It took a while to sink in, but when I finally grasped it, I began to see everything in a new way not just game, but life itself. Why the hell was I always beating myself up when I made a mistake. If I didn’t make the mistake I wouldn’t know any better, as long as I’m learning I’m living, and progressing.

This certainly turned game from being Scary to Fun. And it goes along with another quote from YC.

“ Pushing comfort zones is a way of learning, if you feel uncomfortable embrace it, it’s a good thing, because you’re pushing outside your current comfort zone, and expanding your reality.”

- YellowCab

Like I said I feel this goes hand and hand with the first one, after taking hold of this when I saw myself feeling uncomfortable, or shying away from a situation, game related or not, I’ve been pushing myself further to gain that extra experience


“ Don’t hold back, holding back is how we fuck ourselves up in relationships with women. You’ve already got game inside you, stop holding back, if anyone has a problem with you that’s their problem not yours”

- Ameno

This was and still is a constant challenge. My entire life whenever I’ve gotten the impulse to act on instinct my social programming, fear of what others think, fear of what she’s going to think has always fucked me up and kept me closed off from everyone. Its hard to just act and not care of what others are going to think and yet still be socially acceptable. But after firmly getting the idea instilled in my brain that I’ve always had game I’ve just been holding back, things have been rapidly changing. I’ve been acting on impulses and being in the moment, it doesn’t always turn out perfect, sometimes people get a bit thrown off, but I try my best to real them back in. By doing this lately, I hear myself say and act out shit and think where the hell is this coming from? I’ve just begun to trust myself, and not worry as much about messing up. If I think she’s cute, I’ve been telling her, if she’s acting bitchy, and I get the impulse, I’ve been calling her out on her attitude. Not saying these things are great to do, but its been relieving just to do/say what I want.


“ You’ve got to learn, not to judge, and be able to accept her for who she is and what she is, you have to accept every part about her.”

- Sertacos

This might not sound like a big thing to some of you, but for me when I first heard this I realized that it was such a BIG point, that I’ve always looked over. Through pretty much my entire life it was a running joke, in my small group of friends how judgmental I was of women. I rightfully got the awarded the nickname “Shallow Hal”, incase you haven’t seen it it’s a movie with Jack Black, about a guy who’s so judgmental of women, that some spell is put on him where he only sees inner beauty and he starts fucking fat chicks. But back to my point, how was I ever to get a girl, if I would find the smallest thing to not approach, not talk, not even like her. Whether it was the type of music she liked, some weird way she moved, maybe even a little mole on her arm, it was really bad. I noticed it was actually just my fears because I was so afraid to interact with women, or progress myself into a relationship that I’d find the tiniest excuse not to proceed. By doing this I’ve been seeing the real beauty in women lately. And just genuinely liking them and taking an honest interest, which I think has been coming off as positive in my interactions.


“You need to be one of those guys who can’t walk past a mirror without stopping and looking at yourself. You have to love yourself that completely.”

- The Scarlet Pimp



I didn’t love myself. I thought I was fat, had acne, still have acne, I was embarrassed to be around ME! Freakin’ Insane! I was horrified to express myself. The importance of loving myself, and accepting myself, it didn’t happen overnight. I didn’t even think that loving myself mattered. It felt silly, but I took SP’s advice and wrote positive affirmations, I wrote how I deserved every women, and if they couldn’t see that they were still living a lie, and I taped it up right in my bathroom next to my shower and read it every day for weeks. This is something that in the past I would have said was completely stupid, I felt stupid and silly at first, but I believed in it, over time, I didn’t need to read it anymore I knew it. I was the SHIT. That’s what I had to keep reminding myself of. Because how was a girl ever supposed to like me/love me if I didn’t love myself. I was so ashamed of expressing my true self. I noticed this was just building more barriers between me and the outside world. By doing this I struggled to……


“ Tear down those walls”

- The Scarlet Pimp

I was holding my self back all along, it wasn’t the women it, it wasn’t that other guys were better, because there not. I’ve notice that loving myself, every part of myself, has been a big part of helping me in life/game lately.


These are some general points that have been on my mind a lot lately wanted to share it with whoever was willing to read it. All this stuff I just never thought about or understood until lately, and now it all seems so simple.

Thanks Everyone,

- Q

Monday, August 18, 2008